I woke up this morning and realised....

I woke up this morning and realised how blessed I am. I was so stressed out last night because I desperately wanted to sale my car and a mechanic came buy and offered to buy it for RM5000...and I was like "WHAT!". Seriously, I don't think my car is worth that little as it has new rims, the interior has been refurbished and the engine is working well. Of course it has some problems but besides that I think its just fine!!!

Anyway, I woke up this morning thinking, if no one is going to offer me rm8000 for it, I should just keep it and use it. Then I started thinking of all the things I have, I have a mom who got better from cancer, I have a husband who loves me a lot, I have a little girl who is a little monster but nevertheless she is mine because I'm blessed to be able to bear a child in me. I have a roof to live under and I don't have to pay any house loan for it. I have my-in-laws staying with me and my mom-in-law cooks dinner for the whole family everyday and plus the fact that we all get along well (I mean seriously, how many people do you know who gets along with their in-laws). I have a kelisa, though small, it gets me from one place to another and I have a good job....so basically I have nothing to complain about. I guess sometimes we just forget to think about what we already have and start stressing out unnecessarily. It could be the hormones!!! Hahaha...

**Thank you Lord for blessing me.....what will I do without you! Thanks again!

KK here I come!!!

I'll be going to KK on the 2nd to the 4th May and I'm so excited. Main reason for going is to play netball!!! And the best part is, its kinda like a friendly match between Yayasan Sabah and us (KRP) and the rest of the time we will be free to do whatever we want!!! How cool is that??? We only need to pay RM100 (and I'm not sure what this is for) and flight and accomodation is provided. I seriously think that's a fantastic deal. Can't wait to have fun, especially with the Ladies!!! KK!!! here we come!!!

KK, KK beautiful KK,
Please be nice and sunny,
But please don't burn us, OK?
Cause we might look funny!

KK, KK, beautiful KK,
I seriously hope there's a Padini,
But please have discounts, OK?
Cause we tak cukup money!

*wink*

A Poem for my DAD titled: When you look down from heaven...

This poem was written especially fo my late father....the greatest dad anyone could ever have....It doesn't really rhyme that well but it's the best I could do....(this was written a few weeks after my dad passed away)

When you look down from heaven,

And see tears in my eyes,

It's a sign of great gladness,

That I was indeed blessed,

With a dad full of kindness,

Who made my life the very best.

When you look down from heaven,

And see tears in my eyes,

It doesn't mean that I'm sad,

Nor does it mean that I'm mad,

Its just happy thoughts of you, dad,

That makes me miss you so bad.

When you look down from heaven,

And see tears in my eyes,

It's my little way of wishing,

That the dreams that I'll be dreaming,

Would be the great fun I'll be having,

With you my dear dad,

When you look down from heaven

And see tears in my eyes,

Its my way of thanking you, dad,

For such a happy life,

And for giving me such memories,

Which I will treasure all my life.

When you look down from heaven,

And see tears in my eyes,

It's my own way of saying,

Since there's no way of hugging,

The amount of love I'm having,

For a dad whose been so loving.

When you look down from heaven,

And see tears in my eyes,

It's just me being proud dad,

Of the achievement you've had,

Of reaching the heavenly realms,

Where our dearest Jesus is at.

When you look down from heaven

And see tears in my eyes,

It means I can't stand much longer,

To meet you and the Creator,

But for now, there's still mother,

And loving her will be my career.

A Poem about a FLY!!! :)

I love this one guy,
Who Annoys me like a fly,
I think its really the high,
That turns him into a fly.

If I had a choice of flies,
I wished he'd be a butterfly,
Or even better, a fire fly,
The kind that lights up the sky.

Indeed he'll be a gorgeous fly,
Who'd be loved by other flies,
But then he'd have his choice of flies,
And that would make me cry.
Cause he would then say bye.

So after thinking through about flies,
His not going to be a fire fly,
Or any other kind of fly, (Yes! I Changed My Mind!)

I've decided I love this guy,
With the high or without the high,
As he'll forever be my fly,
My annoying little fly.

And maybe even to my guy,
I'm also an annoying little fly,
But I'm an annoying fly,
Who is a sweetie pie. :) *Wink*

The Best Zodiac Sign I've Ever Seen YET!

Again, I was going though my funwall in my facebook and I came across this ZODIAC SIGNS. I don't believe in them but I like to read them, sometimes they kinda boost your self-esteem...hahaha...seriously...especially this particular ONE!!! I think this is the COOLEST predictions yet that I've ever read!!! Please take note that I'm a PIECES!!! See what you think??? Have fun reading!

C • A • N • C • E • R: Most Amazing Kisser

Very high sex appeal. Great in bed!!! Love is one of a kind. Very romantic. Most caring person you will ever meet! Entirely creative. Extremely random and proud of it. Freak in bed. Spontaneous. Great telling stories. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out if it comes down to it. Someone you should hold on to.

S • C • O • R • P • I • O: The Freak in Bed

Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique sexiness. Most caring person you will ever meet! AMAZING IN BED..!!! Not the kind of person you wanna fuck with...u might end up crying... The most irresistible. Rare 2 find. Funny. Talkative. Erotic. Smart. Loves sports. Gets what he/she wants. Loves to be in a relationship.

V • I • R • G • O:The LoverDominant in relationships.

Sexy. someone loves them right now. Freak in bed. Always wants the last word. Caring. Smart. Intellectual. Attractive. Loyal. Easy to talk to. Hard to forget. Love at first sight. Everything you ever wanted. Easy to please. The one and only. Ultimate sexiness.Great kisser.

L • I • B • R • A • : The Bitch

Can be mean sometimes, and will Probably knock your ass out, if crossed the wrong way!! EXTREMELY sexy. Intelligent. Energetic. Predict future. Most erotic. (Freak in bed.) (GREAT kisser.) Always get what they want. Sexy. Attractive. Easy going. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. The sexiest ever....Romantic. Caring.

A • R • I • E • S: The Sexiest

Outgoing. Lovable. Spontaneous. Not one to fuck with. Erotic. Funny. Take you on trips to the moon in bed. Excellent kisser EXTREMELY sexy. Loves being in long relationships.=) Addictive. Loud. best in bed.

A • Q • U • A • R • I • U • S: the strongest

Trustworthy. Sexy. professional kissers. One of a kind. Loves being in long-term relationships. Extremely energetic and funny. Unpredictable. Will exceed your expectations. Loves music. Not a Fighter, But will Knock the fuck out of u. The best and biggest freak in bed! Strong. Considered to be a "Spartan." The most intelligent. falls in love too easily. Doesn't show it but is easy to hurt.

G • E • M • I • N • I: passionate

Nice. Love is one of a kind. Lover not a fighter, but will still knock you the fuck out. Trustworthy. Always happy. Loud. Talkative. Outgoing VERY FORGIVING.Horny. Freak in Bed. Loves to make out. Has a beautiful smile. Generous. Strong. ULTRA SEXY. THE MOST IRRESISTIBLE.

L • E • O: wild in bed

Great talker. Sexy and passionate. Laid back. Knows how to have fun. Is really good at a lot. Great kisser. Unpredictable. Outgoing. Down to earth. Loyal.Addictive. Attractive. Loud. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Not one to mess with. Rare to find.

C • A • N • C • E • R: Most Amazing Kisser

Very high sex appeal. Great in bed!!! Love is one of a kind. Very romantic. Most caring person you will ever meet! Entirely creative. Extremely random and proud of it. Freak in bed. Spontaneous. Great telling stories. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out if it comes down to it. Someone you should hold on to.

P • I • S • C • E • S: The Piece of ass (WHAT THE HELL DOES THIS MEAN??? DOES IT MEAN I HAVE A NICE ASS?? HAHAHA...TRYING TO BE OPTIMISTIC HERE!!!)

Caring and kind (I TOTALLY AGREE). Smart (HAHAHAHA, I SERIOUSLY HOPE SO!!!). Center of attention (YEAH, I SOMETIMES GET CARRIED AWAY WITH MYSELF AND END UP BECOMING JUST THAT, NOT THAT I WANTED TO..HONESTLY!!! :p). Too Sexy, DAMN IT (HAHAHAHAHA....HELL YAH!!!...HAHAHA..NOT!). Very high SEX appeal (ROTFL....THIS IS HILARIOUS! AND ALL THE TIME I THOUGHT IT WAS BECAUSE I HAD HAIRY ARMS....HAHAHA). Has the last word (MY HUSBAND HIGHLY AGREES WITH THIS ONE). The best to find, hardest to keep (I ON THE OTHER HAND VERY MUCH AGREE ON THIS ONE!!!). Fun to be around (HAHA...I LIKE TO THING SO). Freak in the sheets (WHAT THE HELL DOES THIS MEAN?). Extremely weird but in a good way (HAHAHA, YEAH...ITS NOT NORMAL TO BE NORMAL...SO I AGREE!!!). Super good in bed (HAHAHA....LOL...NO COMMENT!). Good Sense of Humor!!! (HMMM...VERY MUCH DEPENDS ON THE MOOD) Thoughtful (MORE LIKE IN A DAZE RATHER THAN BEING THOUGHTFUL). A partner for life (WELL AT LEAST I KNOW THERE IS A HIGHER SUCCESS RATE THAN MY MARRIAGE WILL LAST FOREVER!!! HAHA...POOR MOND!). Always gets what he or she wants (NO LAH, NOT TRUE...I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO GET WHAT I WANT! HOW I WISH!). Loves to joke (DEFINITELY, IN A SARCASTIC MANNER, SOMETIMES I JUST CAN'T HELP IT, PEOPLE JUST SAY THE SILLIEST THINGS WHICH I CAN'T HELP BUT COMMENT ON IT AND APPARENTLY PEOPLE FIND IT FUNNY!). Very popular (USE TO BE, NOT ANYMORE...AND LIFE GOES ON). Silly, fun and sweet (YES EH! THAT'S WHY PEOPLE LIKE ME, I THINK...HAHA..PRASAN NYA AKU!!! *WINK*) .

C • A • P • R • I • C • O • R • N: The best in bed

Loves being in long relationships. Great talker. AlwaysLove to bust. Nice. Sassy. Intelligent. Sexy. Predict future. Irresistible, awesome kisser.gets what he or she wants. BY FAR the BEST in BED. Very sexy. Coolest. Loves to own Gemini's in sports.Extremely fun. Loves to joke. Loves to be your first. So you'll never forget. Smart.

T • A • U • R • U • S: The sex addict

Aggressive. Freak in bed. Rare to find! Loves being in long relationships Likes to give a good fight for what they want. Extremely outgoing. Sexy as ...u no!..... Loves to help people in times of need. Outstanding kisser. Very funny. Awesome personality. Stubborn. Sexual as ......... Most caring person you will ever meet! One of a kind. Not one to fuck with. Are the most sexiest people on earth!

S • A • G • I • T • T • A • R • I • U • S. The Sexy one

Spontaneous. Horny. Freak in Bed. Great when found. Loves being in long relationships. The one. So much love to give. Not one to mess with. Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone They meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Most caring person you will ever meet! Not the kind of person you wanna mess with you might end up crying.

Hmmm...after going through all of the signs, it seems to me that almost everyone is either sexy or a freak in bed or good in bed! NOW WHAT KIND OF ZODIAC PREDICTION IS THIS??? I swear the person who wrote this, needs to get a life....haha...and that would include me cause I'm actually commenting about it...:P TA!

Is this True???

Just the other day when I was driving home from work, I heard this on the Radio. Now according to research (I'm not sure who does their research for them!!!) they found that man who marry a woman who he thinks is beautiful/drop dead gorgeous and that he doesn't deserve, will most likely have a very successful marriage because he will treat her very well. Man who thinks that they are better looking than their wife will most likely not have a successful marriage because they think they deserve better.

What do you all think?

Does this mean that man who thinks they are so damn goodlooking will cheat more? How about those drop dead gorgeous woman who married an average looking man? Won't they cheat on them and think they deserve better too?

Maybe its because woman in general tend to love romantic gestures and love to have a sense of emotional closeness, therefore may not cheat on the husband even if they are drop dead gorgeous.

Now men on the other hand, if they think that they deserve better and could find someone even more beautiful because he is one damn good looking guy, no matter how nice the wife treats him, he may have the urge to still cheat on her. Probably because men are more visually stimulated??? Maybe???

It's no wonder there is a phrase that goes "It's better to marry someone who loves you more than you love them" (applies to women I suppose) Something like that lah...:P. Hopefully somewhere in the marriage you'll learn to love them just as much! :).

How about if both are drop dead gorgeous leh??? Seldom happens I know but it does happen.

Still one might feel inferior to the other one, i think.

Oklah...enough of me thinking....TA!

Why? Why?? WHY???

Since I've been married for almost four years now, I notice that men cannot be train to do things. Not that I'm saying they can't change, they do change for the better as they grow older but their certain habits remains the same (now I'm not sayng all men but majority). Ladies out there, if you are either married or staying with your boyfriend, please confirm with me on whether this is true! Feel free to add to the list of things they do.

1) They have this bad habit of taking off their clothes before reaching the toilet to shower and leaving it on the floor or on the sofa or anywhere else except the laundry basket! Now, in normal circumstances if it was me, after I shower, I will pick it up and put it into the laudry basket! But for men, they'll just leave it lying there until some kind soul will finally decide that it is such a nuisance being on the floor and pick it up AKA wife/gf. Why ah? Why??? Is it so hard for them to pick it up and put it into the laundry basket? OR do they just enjoy the time when night comes and wait till we ask the crucial question "This Clean or Not?" (I think they want attention eh??)

2) When they are looking for something they tend to look with their mouth! For example, "Honey, where is the house key???" Doesn't tha sound so familiar....hahaha...the reason for them not being able to find whatever they want to is because they usually just scan the surface! We on the other hand will go out of our way to dig here and dig there just to find the item. Of course there are times when we just could not be bothered and we say " I don't know! You were the last one to use it!" Yes! we can get fed-up too! :) Why can't they just leave the keys at the same place whenever they come back? Probably too drunk to do so...hahaha...

3) They like to use the word "I don't know!" Now, if we women where to ask "Honey, where's the house key?" Their reply would most probably be "I don't know". True? If we were to ask "Honey, where should we go for lunch?" the answer would also most probably be "I don't know".

4) Why do men have a tendency to fall asleep infront of the tv?
Why why why???

The sad part to it all is that we still pick up after them, we still hunt down the keys for them, and we still accept they "I don't know's" and decide for them and we still swicth off the tv and wake them up to go into the room.....sigh....and life goes on...

Losing Weight and Looking Good!

We ladies are never satisfied with our physical appearence! Mind you in this case, ladies can be divided into three types: (I think this does apply to Men as well these days...Men are just as VAIN as Ladies...haha..sorry guys...but I think its True!!! :)). I know some guys who takes hours to get ready and looks in the mirror way too much!!!

1) The one who complains complain complains but never does anything or may start of with a NEW YEARS RESOLUTION and do something about it for the first few weeks than go back to complaining and than not doing anything about it.

2) The one who does something about it and manages to keep in shape. (I'm in this category at the moment) Please note that, with all the exercising, the other essential parts which should remain the same size reduces as well, meaning that though you might look nice and slim, you can't wear a bikini because you have nothing to show off!!! Just like me...hahaha...

3) The one that does nothing at all and still looks great and she still has the guts to tell you that she's fat!!!

Why do we make a big fuss about it? Why are we never satisfied?

I know for a fact that I'm terrified of being fat....I have a major phobia....when people tell me I look healthy (indirectly telling me I'm fat!) I freak out! When I look at my picture and notice my chubby cheeks and my double chin, I freak out!!! I freak out at everything. And the interesting part is that the heaviest I've ever been is only 48kg ,back in the days when I was in Australia!!! Yeah, yeah that's pretty light you may say...but if you haven't noticed (don't think anyone would not notice) I'm pretty short as well, actually pretty short is an understatement, I'm actualy so damn short...almost reaching 5 feet at 4'11" but never reaching it. So close yet so far...sigh...again...notice the unsatifaction of it. Most people in their lifetime have notice a growth spurt in their height...but me??? Growth Spurt??? What was that again??? Hahaha...

Ok, back to my weight, notice in my previous blog I've complain many times about weight....I think at that point I was the person in the Number 1 category. Being 48 kg, wasn't all that exciting...expecially being as short as I am...48 kg had a great impact on me...I think I looked like a potato at that point...hahaha...a cute adorable potato...(The music "I'm So Vain", should start playing in ur heads just about now! :P. Anyway, now I'm 43kg....nice and slim with no boobs...hahaha....go figure!!! Thank GOD for padded bras!!!

But getting to where I am at the moment is no easy task....you actually have to work out to get into shape. Going on a Diet is HELL ON EARTH (well, I do think hell is much worst but this is just a metaphore of how terrible going on a diet can be, especially when you see the people around you eating whatever they want too)...so instead of stuffing myself with vegies and fruits to be on a so called Diet, I've decided that I'm going to eat (but cut down on the rice intake) and exercise. Its definitely working that's for sure!!! Of course at the moment what I do is go to the gym during lunch and have a bun for lunch....but I notice that it gets me really hungry by 5pm and makes be pig out during dinner time which is a definite NO NO! So TODAY I've decided that what I'm going to do is, do a bit of cardio during lunch and do more weights then have a proper lunch...and then in the evening go for a proper jog when my darling hubby goes to pick up the little sweetheart/monster (depending on her mood on that day). That way, I get to eat during lunch and not be hungry by 5pm and not pig out during dinner. I think that's a good idea! Don't you? That way i don't eat what I lose.

I know a lot of you may say, Jacq has gone nuts with exercising...probably I have....but the outcome is actually quite good (and the fact that I don't want to lose to my darling husband who goes to the gym everyday) you feel healthier and are happy with the outcome, you actually feel toner than you were before and quite fit and you can even have some chocolates and ice cream during the week when you have the cravings for it and not feel guilty (chocolates and ice cream is an "IN" thing when you have a little daughter around). I am of course blessed with stamina but I'm positive that you can actually build up the stamina if you are willing to try. Now, don't think that I don't get lazy sometimes...I do..I seriously do....its a normal human behaviour! Weight loss is not impossible....you just need to gain momentum and stick to it! AND never say you don't have time for exercising, that's just very bad excuse!

Anyway, here are some tips to lose weight if you are interested:

1) Make sure you have a proper MP3/MP4...this is very important to keep you motivated. Without it, you tend to have less motivation. Especially if you are going to start of with jogging. Jogging or cycling is very good cardio exercise.

2) At least Jog/Cycle 3 times a week. I do it everyday so no guilt for me when it comes to eating!!! (I Love Food!!!, who doesn't!). Of course if I eat too much I do start getting worried.

3) Never ever say "I'll start tomoro! when you are suppose to start today". Apparently, sometimes, tomoro never comes!!!.This phrase usually happens when you've already plan to hit the gym in the evening and someone calls you and says "Hey! lets go for a drink!". Of course the temptation to go out with your friend is much stronger than going to the gym (who in their right mind will have the temptation to go to the gym...haha...unless of course there is an absolutely gorgeous MAN who goes to the gym all the time....ummm...that does not apply to me ah!!!....now don't start telling my husband such lies....) Oh yah! and vice versa for the guys!!!

4) Drink Green Tea everyday!!! It helps increase your metabolism rate!

5) Eat at the same time everyday for Breakfast, Lunch & Dinner so your body doesn't get confuse on your schedule and works accordingly and therefore increases your metabolism as well. Trust me, your body can get confuse too!!!

6) Don't have supper...or better still...don't eat after 9pm...somehow doing supper tends to increase your weight.

7) Don't sleep!!! hahaha...easiest way to lose weight but not healthy...so skip this step..:P Just felt like putting it in.

8) If you want to have chocolate and ice cream like i do...have one only...don't get too greedy...have one and savour it. And when I mean one...I don't mean one whole bar of chocolate or one whole tub of ice cream...I mean one small piece of chocolate and one scoop of ice cream. Don't need to rush through it...just take your time...

That's about it...the other thing you could do is check out this website:
http://www.freetrainers.com/

It tells you what you should do on a daily basis. It even prepares a schedule for you. It's wonderful!

Now, don't expect to lose weight instantly....that seriously doesn't happen. Give it time...in 2 months or so...you will definitely notice the difference.

So, for those of you in category number 1, stop complaining already....do something about it....and STICK TO IT!!! You have nothing to lose!!! (except your boobs!..haha...sad again but true!). Well there is Breast Implants these days!!!

For those of you in category number 2, keep up the good work...if you are in Miri and need someone to exercise with, give me a buzz :). I'm all in for hiking too!!!

For those of you who are in category number 3, exercise is still good to keep you healthy!!! Christine! (you know who you are!)...that applies to you too!!! :)

NOW, DO REMEMBER, Nothing is ever so imposible!!! I know a friend who went from 80kg to 50 something kg (can't really re-call the exact weight). She has 3 kids and she looks FANTASTIC!!! If she can do it, so can you!!! It's just like being MARRIED....it's HARDWORK...but WORTH IT! Plus! your husband will really appreciate the effort!!! Don't ever ever say to yourself, "I'm married, so who cares!!! I don't have to bother about looking good....I already have a husband, he should love me for who I am"...Yes! of course he should love you for who you are but you deserve to keep him on his toes and say "Damn! I'm lucky to have such a beautiful wife!". That way, there is a lower/no possibility of him seeing another person!!! Not that it is going to happen...but you never know! Better be safe than sorry :) Of course what I wrote in my Blog "Marriage! Soul Mates??" applies as well :)

That's it for today!!! Stay Healthy!!! If you need help...I'm here for you!!! :) Have a Wonderful day ahead!!! TA!

Marriage!!! Soul Mates???

Now, I always wondered (notice tha I've been wondering/thinking a lot these days) why do people get married in the first place? Is it because:

1) They have found their soul-mate??? (Meaning being so madly in love with each other)

2) They just woke up one day and said, 'Hey! Why don' we get married?" (Meaning, 'Hey, since we've been together like forever, why not jus get married?, We've manage to last this long, I'm sure we can last forever!)

3) Opppssss!!! I'm Pregnant!!! (That's pretty forward, don't think I need to explain that)

4) I'm getting OLD!!! (This usually applies to the Ladies!!! Biological clock ain't stopping for no one!)

Now, what I find strange is that, when you're dating, everything is just great! No matter how long it may be...sometimes you quarrel but most of the time you will make up because you don't want to lose each other. But why is it that once you get MARRIED, everything changes??? Is it because you wake up one day (again (the again applies to the person who is in the No.2 scenario)) and realise "SHIT! I'M STUCK WITH THIS WOMAN/MAN FOR LIFE!!!". I wonder whether anyone ever wakes up and say "YES! I'M STUCK WITH THIS PERSON FOR LIFE!!! THANK YOU GOD!!!" You think? I seriously do hope that my husband wakes up every morning and says "DAMN! I'M LUCKY TO BE MARRIED TO JACQ!" Hahahaha....yes I know I'm kidding myself, that only happens in fairy-tales!

Anyway, in marriages there are times when you fight and you wonder why you married that person and then there are loads of other times when you knew why you married that person. Marriage is really a give and take situation. A marriage that is all about WANTING AND TAKING will hardly survive. And if you are one of those people who thinks "Hey! I'm sure I can do better than this (meaning the spouse)" than your marriage will definitely not end well.

There are many times also I'm very sure of, that people will say, "I can't stand my wife, she NAGS and NAGS and NAGS when will she ever stop!" or "My husband is never at home and I feel lonely". These are people who will most probably get a divorce or end up being misreable for the rest of their lives. In this case, they might most probably be having an affair elsewhere. Sad but true! So, why do people get married when they end up hating each other in the end. Why is it so hard to live with the other gender? Why can't there be a COMPROMISE? Well, the ANSWER is, there is a possibility of a COMPROMISE..the question is whether either spouse is willing to listen to the other. In most cases both husband and wife will think they are right and argue to NO AVAIL, AND most of the time, they take the easy way out...and get a DIVORCE... Lawyers these days are seriously getting richer!!! :) And what do they say when they gt the divorce? They say "We have Inconsolable Defferences!" (Yeah too much E! News!...hahaha....makes me wonder why people get married at all, especially celebrities!...at the end they all use the same phrase as a reason for their divorce.)

Anyway, what I'm trying to get at is, why don't people try a bit harder and try to make it work? Why won't both husband and wife be less stubborn and listen to each other for once, and think to themselves, if I was in her/his shoes, would I feel the same as him/her? People should be brought up to have more EMPATHY towards others, than probably marriages will work, that's what i think lah! Mind you, all this that I'm writing is what I think lah...so please don't take it to heart.

For some people Marriage seems to grow on them and they look wonderful together...but the majority usually have problems. I am part of the majority, I don't think marriage is easy....in my first year of marriage...me and my hubby almost literally wanted to kill each other....and mind you, that was the first year, even though we have been dating for four years before we got married. Apparently we found out that no matter how many years you date, marriage is just of a different league altogether! Thank God, we manage to get through the first years of marriage and are pretty contented at where we are now. Now back to the years of dating and than marrying, I'm sure there are people out there who have been dating for 7 or more years and once they got married, they end up divorcing each other in a blink of an eye (of course by law, you have to stay married for at least two years). Sad...but than again there are some people I know who got married within the year of knowing each other and they end up being blissfully married. Strange isn't it? Matching Personalities I suppose....such lucky people! Of course they are probably a minority of 5% or less of our world population. And their marriage is definetly a happilly ever after.....even when the kids come into their lives they still manage to stay sane and not scream at each other (obviously that doesn't work for me...hehee...I'm not perfect). I seriously envy those people!!!

However, after all the crap I've been writing about marriage, I know one thing for sure and that is I'm glad I married my husband..no matter what. We have our ups and downs....more ups now than downs these days....and I believe that all married people should leave by these rules in order to have a successful marriage...(plus the fact that not one of you is gatal-gatal want to try out something new..temptation is always there but if you want the marriage to work, you can always fight temptation). And the Rules for a Happy Marriage are:

1) Never both be angry at the same time

2) Never yell at each other unless the house is on FIRE!!

3) If one of you has to win and argument, let it be your mate (or like I said "COMPROMISE & EMPATHISE!)

4) If you have to criticize do it lovingly (Just like Paula Abdul in American Idol!!! She always seem to be able to compliment on something!)

5) Never bring up mistakes in the past!!! (We all have a tendency to do so, when we have nothing else to say in an argument and still want to win!)

6) Neglect the whole world rather than each other.

7) Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled (usually very difficult to do)

8) At least once a day try to say one kind/complimentary word.

9) When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it!

10) It takes two to make a quarrel and the one in wrong is the one who does the most talking (probably the one who is bringing up the past!!!)

This one comes from me -

11) Always give your husband/wife time to hang out with his/her friends.

12) Don't be self-centered and only think of yourself. Marriage is always a two-way thing!

13) Learn to accept the fact that NO ONE IS PERFECT!

14) Spend Quality time with each other at least Once a Month without the kids!

15) Always celebrate Birthdays and Anniversaries (never forget ur Wedding Anniversary, unless you want to die! :)), everyone loves getting presents now and than. I don't think I've yet to know someone who doesn't like presents.

So at the end when you really do think about it, whether or not you are soul mates....since you've already married each other, just deal with it...if you want to work it out, you definitely can. You'll be surprise...you might end up being very much in love with each other and ending up as soul-mates even though you were not to start of with! So good luck to those getting married!!! Its ALL GOOD if you want it to be!!!

That's it! All the crap I can write for today! TA!

Why do we bother having KIDS?

Since my little Seraphina has turn into a Little Monster, I tend to ask myself, why do people bother having kids??? Let me list down a few things I have to go through just by having one kid, i repeat ONE KID!!!

First of all, its the amount of pain you have to go through just to get them into this world!!! And that's just the beginning!!!

1. Then, when they are first born, you hardly have time to sleep, if you are lucky, your baby might sleep for 4 hours, wake up for one hour and repeat the routine. Unfortunately for me, my baby had a bad cough in her first month (poor little girl, partly I'm too blame cause i had the bad cough first), so anyway, due to that, she wakes up every hour to cough, and mind you, it was quite on the dot...so can you imagine my sleeping pattern??? I looked horrible!!! and I was irritable and all emotional!!! Not a very nice scene.
2. Then you have to change and wash them when they "do their business", and that SMELL!!!! That Smell beats all kinds of smell....hooyoooh!!!
3. Since there are so many kidnapping cases this time, you can hardly even let your child out of sight, and you know how tiring that is, especially when they walk so fast. This means that, shopping is out of the question!!!
4. Next, We need to train them!!! That's the worst!!! I know some parents wake up every few hours to potty train their children. But me? Apu!!! I'm the last person on earth who wants to wake up in the middle of the night to ask my daughter to go to the toilet! Anyway, I've tried telling my daughter to use her potty many times but all she does is sit on it and smile and says 'ok!', and I know when she says 'ok!' that means that she's tired of sitting on the potty. There has yet to be a time when she actually peed in it. There was one time when we just got out of the shower and she was not wearing her pampers, and she really needed to go, she kept telling me "Bau! Bau!" and I said quick come here and use the potty...but she didn't want to, so both of us were in panic mode...she not being able to hold it in any longer and me, trying to get her to sit on the potty!!! At the end, she stood there and pee came rolling down her legs onto the bedroom floor. Than she started crying and saying "Bak! Bak!" meaning "Wet! Wet!" in Kelabit...and I said NOOOOOO!!!! and she manage to stop it for awhile...hahaha...don't ask me how, but anyway, the commotion continued, she tend asked me to fill her small bath tub so she could sit in it, but I didn't know why she wanted to sit in it, but being the obliging mother, i fill the bathtub with water and she quickly sat in it, and guess what she did!!!! She continued PEE-ING!!! So there goes her bath, and I had to bath her again!!! All the commotion just to get her to PEE.....
5. Than you have to Discipline them and teach them that NO is actual word...and when you say NO it means NO. However, NO isn't in her vocabulary...when you say NO....she cries and screams and becomes very demanding. Sometimes it can really get out of hand. One time we went to Dinner at this Aunty's house...and she was very much enjoying herself but it was getting late and we wanted to go home but she didn't want to, so it was quite dramatic. We manage to pull her out of the house and get her into the car but she wanted to escape. She cried so hard all the way home and when we brought her into the room, she ran out of the room and open the front door and wanted to run out, as if lah she can run all the way to the aunty's house. It was really bad!!! I've never seen such a thing from her before and mind you she's only 2 YEARS OLD!!! 2 years old and she wants to run away from home already, can't imagine what it will be like when she becomes a teenager!!! Not looking forward to that at the moment!!! And praying very hard that she turns out to be a good behaved child..haha...I bet all mothers hope the same!
6. The "NO" in disciplining also applies to going shopping, when she doesn't get what she wants, I literally have to drag her out of the supermarket while she does her "Kicking and Screaming". Its very exciting when that happens cause you than become the center of attention! So memalukan you know!!!!....sometimes I wish I could wear a permanent hood so I can cover my head when she does that.

So why do we have kids??? I ask myself this over and over again all the time...than it all becomes clear to me when I see my daughter in this so adorable state (picture below) ...and than I think to myself that it's all worth it and I wouldn't want to change it for the world. Of course at that point of time you kinda have amnesia and forget all the horror you have been through :).

I can't believe I'm starting a BLOG!!

Hahahaha...seriously I have no idea why I'm doing this, but I think its because I don't have a life and I myself would like to know what weird stuff I would write on a daily basis or weekly basis or worst come to worst monthly basis.

I'm also beginning to wonder whether I'll ever grow a FAN base like most bloggers...haha...doubt it, I'll probably be the only one reading this...:P.

So, lets see how inspirational I can get...haha...again doubt that will ever happen :P

Well, if you have no life just like me, read on. For now, I'll just add some of my blogs from my multiply to fill in the blank spaces in this new blog of mind. That way I won't look so much like an air head with an empty blog :P

Thanks for reading this crap and I look forward to writting more crap for you all to read or for myself to look back at in the future...haha...

TA!